I think part of the roughness with these groups is my hearing impairment. You would think that homeschooling parents would do email, but apparently not all are totally 'plugged in'. Since I have a hard time hearing on the phone and I prefer email contact, I think it just becomes easier for people to just not call. It could be, too, that our kids are smart and gifted, and many parents are homeschooling their special needs kids. It comes across as bragging to talk about smart kids so it can be difficult to talk about where they're at and what they're doing.
I'm not totally disappointed about being on the out and out with these groups. I would really like to have more contact with other homeschooling parents, but it seems like all are busy, busy, busy. Plus it has to be a good fit--more like a friendship than just an impersonal group since we are really talking about our lives here. Homeschooling can't be separated from "life". So while my kids have a vibrant social life (more so than when they were in school, if you don't count the school day!), I am finding my social life somewhat curtailed. I am home more because of homeschooling obligations, when I used to be off and about with friends. It's not that I can't go out, but the extra workload homeschooling puts on me eats up what used to be "free time." It takes a little more effort and planning to get out.
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I can tell you right now it would be a pleasure to be in the same group as you. I have a daughter home from China for 16 months that keeps me home and off the phone a lot so email is my preferred method of communication and LOVE it. I'm sorry those groups wouldn't/didn't let you in. Have a great weekend!
ReplyDeleteSounds like an intriguing situation--home from China for 16 months? Hm. Then she'll be gone again? What kind of challenges are you facing right now?
ReplyDeleteSorry, I wasn't very clear. We adopted our first daughter 16 months ago from China and we just went back in December to bring home our second daughter. Eliana our first daughter has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and sensory issues, which makes learning and functioning outside our home very hard. She is 39 months old and still isn't speaking. She had a cleft lip/plate, but both have been repaired so we know now it is more a matter of will. When we were home about 9 months she knew 80+ signs in ASL, but doesn't use it now and just grunts for things. We are not sure what is going on because she is very smart, but seems to be going backwards. All of a sudden she doesn't know her colors and on and on it goes. I have been reading a lot and it could be mental numbness from having a little sister (Willow, 26 months), it could be sensory issues such as auditory processing disorder, but we don't know yet. We are waiting on the school district to do some testing to see if we can figure it out. Sorry, I didn't mean to write so much. :-) My email is baymoose @ comcast.net if you ever want to private message me
ReplyDeleteWow! I was waaaaaaaay off! You have got a full load there! I wish I could help. I will ask one of my good friends, though, who adopted 2 girls from China years ago if she had any issues with them. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteThanks Michelle.
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